I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.
That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.
Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.
That’s a fair point. I should’ve kept my comment at miscarriages and not included stillbirths. I, too, have had miscarriages so I understand how it can fuck you up.
Never said they came to term
I’ve never met anyone who had a miscarriage and still described the experience as having a baby in this way.
I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.
That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.
Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.
That’s a fair point. I should’ve kept my comment at miscarriages and not included stillbirths. I, too, have had miscarriages so I understand how it can fuck you up.
I still doubt that’s what the OP meant though.
How many people from the 1800’s do you know
Some women from the 1800s would have described having a miscarriage as a blessing, not a baby.
https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/11/miscarriage-19th-century-women-loss-book.html
Personally, or by reputation?
Gladys and Hugo. 2. They dead tho. Gladys will live forever in my heart because she was my favorite organist growing up.