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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • Like others have said, $100 is a lot. That’s the kind of gift one might expect from a direct family member. $50 would be plenty.

    Flowers and chocolate on top of that will come off as trying too hard and showing romantic interest. Spare yourself the accusations and tension it will cause between you and your friend. It’s a very easy target that people this age will make fun of you for, even if you just intended to be polite.





  • My last name is neither my mom or dad’s. It’s my mom’s ex-husband’s from before I was born. I guess she still legally had the name after they split, and I inherited it - not her side of the family or my father’s last name, since they weren’t married. So I carry a last name for some family I’m not a part of biologically or otherwise, and have never met anyone from that family. And I’m estranged from the entirety of both sides of my biological family, so neither of those names would be viable replacements.

    It does and has always bothered me a bit. I’ve never felt pride about my name or where I came from. I’ve never felt the sense of family that my friends seemed to have. Or the sense of identity that might come from wearing a jersey with your last name across the back. I just feel like a misfit, so in a way this misfit name is kind of appropriate. It’s hasn’t been a priority to change it, and nobody gives a shit for spite to have any effect. They would never find out.