Yeah. In my case they were all poly when they happened. The one where I was a secret had the spouse, and another partner besides me. I was the secret from one of them, but not the other. Were that not my first poly relationship I almost certainly wouldn’t have gotten involved, it was… A mess.

It’s not always disgusting, first off xD Polyamory is around, though I’ve only been with… Uhh… Four? Married people, at least while they were married. A few have gotten married since.

Pretty normal, all things going, with three of them. If you mean “What’s it like to be the person someone’s cheating with” there’s a good goddam reason I refuse to be anyone’s secret. That one sucks, it’s happened once, and was a 0/10 would not recommend experience for anyone involved. The guy blamed himself after I told him, the girl had cotton candy where most people had a spine, and it wasn’t even worth it in bed.

EDIT: Four. It’s happened four times.

I mean, most people should, yeah, but most don’t. Hell, most people I know can’t change a flat on their car, either, and I personally couldn’t change my car’s headlight. Probably would’ve figured it out, since I could change the spark plugs, but still. I think it also comes from a different source, though. It’s always been anxiety over ruining things for tech, or sending all of your money to a Nigerian prince. Nowadays it’s because tech has become more of a black box (like cars) for capitalism reasons, so most people just… Don’t look into it. They don’t fix their own cars, they don’t fix their own computers, they take them to the dealership, or to GeekSquad.

I honestly don’t even know if I would’ve learned half of what I know if I grew up with today’s tech. It’s a lot more locked down now, so you can’t just curiously fuck around with it and see what you can do without breaking it

If it’s not addictive then why have they said they’re drug pushers in internal messages that have been subpoena’d?

I mean… Some people will host free servers, some will be paid. Omg.lol has a fedi server, and a bunch of other stuff, and it costs $20 per year for it. It’s fine to expect users to pay you back for your time, effort, and cost???

I’m currently using Lemmy, and Friendica as my only fediverse accounts, and will probably keep it that way. Friendica has a lot of features, but in my experience it’s slower than most

I’ve always had a thing for tech. I used to make my own custom MySpace profiles, and pet pages on NeoPets, apply custom cursors to my PC, handled stuff when thr computer got viruses; all the stuff you’d expect of a 10 year old with an unrestricted internet access, and a love for technology. I did go to college for networking, but didn’t finish, and ended up in an unrelated field (won’t name here to avoid doxing myself, but I’m not even allowed to troubleshoot any tech to emphasize how unrelated this is).

I did kinda… Completely drop off for a while, but the thing that got me back was my most recent anti-Microsoft kick. Completely dropped Win10 (I’d usually had a windows and Linux machine at all times), dropped Google as my email, started using omg.lol for a lot of things, etc. Then I went half-in on a computer to use as a DNS-wide adblocker, and noticed that I could do… A lot more with it, and I like to tinker, so why not do a lot more with it? 2 years later, and it’s still the best $100 I’ve ever spent tbh.

No regrets! runs away with all of your data in a comically large sack

“Hackers used advanced hacking to unredact the Epstein files!” - Actual headline. The “hackers” did just Ctrl+A, Ctrl+C, opens word processor, Ctrl+V

I mean, someone has to have, otherwise they wouldn’t be doing it anymore.

I have out of curiosity (take precautions, use tor, etc etc), and they’re usually either a fake “1337 Hax0rs have your data” or some weird masturbate on cam with someone (that’s totally not a prerecorded video!) Type of thing.

Part of the issue with reading levels is that we switched from phonics-based to uhh… Fuck what was the name, hold on…

Three cueing! That’s it. With phonics you sound out the word (k-ah-t cat type thing), three queueing you… Guess based on context clues. Phonics was the standard for years, then for some weird reason three cueing took off despite producing lower literacy rates.

So. I’ve had multiple experiences. I’m poly, so some strange scenarios ahead, but as an adult here they are, in the order they started:

Met through work, and was a platonic partner of about 5 years. Ended because of housing issues, but the relationship was… Fine. She definitely had issues, but nothing worse than I had. Also the only one of these I date while being coworkers.

Next one I met through work. Only lasted 2 months, and her fiance’s girlfriend had to coach her through breaking up with me because she had a stack of cotton candy where most people have a spine.

Next one I’m still with 6 years later, almost 7. Met on a dating app, and it’s been fairly smooth since.

Next one I met through work. Been together for about 7 years as well (3 weeks after previously mentioned relationship started)

Next one I also met through work, and was a platonic partner of about 5 years. Ended because of housing issues.

Next one lasted 3 months. It ended amicably, we just weren’t great as partners.

Next major partner was the only abusive one I’ve had. Met her through a friend who I met on a dating app. Real piece of work, but I got a room mate for 3 years out of the deal so hey. Silver linings. (I kept the boyfriend in the breakup)

Next one was someone I met on a dating app. Ended it because their spouse was unsafe to be around.

Next one is the girl who coached second partner through breaking up with me. Yeah. Wild experience. I met her through the that partner, we screeched like pterodactyls at each other, and stayed friends after the breakup. We’re officially just FWBs, but… It’ll be 4 years this year, so worth mentioning regardless?

Overall it’s a fuckin’ grab bag. Dating apps are great, meeting through work goes well, and apparently helping your ex’s fiance break up with their partner because said fiance’s spinal cord was replaced with spun sugar doesn’t sour things all that much.

I just… Don’t cook food I don’t like, generally. It has to be pretty bad for me to not want to eat it. My first attempt at brown rice (severely undercooked), I tried rice and beans (turns out I hate beans to the point of wanting to puke :D). Those went in the trash. But generally I just eat it, maybe I don’t chew if it’s bad enough, but it’s pretty rare regardless.

My room mate either hands it to me, or tosses it if I won’t eat it. That’s the source of most of my tossed food. Food they didn’t want that I was curious enough about to take the offer, then ended up not liking myself.

I use org-mode lists with check boxes to keep track of where I am in patterns :P

I do quite a lot of writing, knitting, gaming, crochet, website making, and game development on my old T430. Also emacs is a hobby, and I use it with all of the above, so count that in xD

• Writing: Good creative outlet, lotta fun, you can do it on a toaster if you’re really strapped for PC specs. Fanfic is especially fun, and a very common way to cut your chops writing.
• Knitting: Useful! You get clothes and wash rags and bags at the end of it! Can be rough on the hands though.
• Crochet: See knitting. Harder on the hands IMO, but I also tension like I’m strangling someone, so that could be my fault.
• Gaming: Depends on the game you’re playing. Retro stuff does well, and is a fun hobby in itself.
• Website making: It’s fun having a blog, and if you want to feed the writing into it you could even do some basic ARG-type stuff.
• Game development: RPG Maker, Godot, and Ren’py all work well. If you can’t draw there are some premade assets on itch.io to play around with, free and paid. Requires less coding than you’d expect, especially with RPGMaker/Ren’Py

Idk about the FEC, but I’d start by checking if this would fall under the CAN-SPAM act first, because the FCC will probably have something or other to say about it.

Here’s a link for how it can apply to political campaigns: https://womencampaign.com/blog/navigating-can-spam-a-guide-for-political-campaigns/

Room mate searched it, it looks like internal bruising? Pretty severe, but yeah. Lack of oxygen, or freezing. Idk that I’d eat it myself, but it’s allegedly safe. Allegedly.

Probably because of how it’s marketed. It’s not marketed as “This product will be completely wrong about everything half the time, and give bad advice, and all of the other ills you’ve heard of on the news” it’s marketed as “The future we’ve always dreamed of, and if you don’t get in now you’ll crumble under the weight of it. It will be the next sliced bread.”

Good to know! Might try that at some point, just to see. I don’t care for most of the matrix UIs, but maybe self hosting one of them will make me xD

Fair, yeah. I didn’t realize Rocket had gotten heavy. I hadn’t used it in years, just remembered it being okay when I had. I’ve switched to XMPP for the same things I was using RC for, admittedly, it’s just… More like a traditional texting app than emulating Discord’s IRC-like experience