

As a white guy living in a significantly “brown” large city, these racists are only emboldened to say it to me thinking “he’s one of us” (racist); it’s extremely noticeable when I repeat what they said like I couldn’t hear it (being old has it’s advantages) loudly so other people around us in public can hear what they said. Edit: and a major number of these people I run across are older white women from an ad-hoc statistics viewpoint.
Even if it’s not misery per se, it’s an opportunity to find a current partner who holds more interest in shared hobbies (travel e.g.) or even find such a partner while traveling! Ending the current relationship now on a good (better?) note instead of letting it fester and breed resentment is worth a lot in my opinion. Part as friends or friendly if possible.