SharkEatingBreakfast

Lizards of any kind.

Fair point. You probably shouldn’t like or enjoy things that other people subjectively don’t like.

My condolences.

You’re still allowed to enjoy them.

Turns out, being a shitty person makes you a shitty person. Who knew?

Hi! I’m also a lady with au/ADHD.

Ella is a twat. Having a disability/handicap does excuse dehumanizing someone else. She can be hateful with her parents if she really wants, but don’t tolerate that shit.

She’s on a slippery slope for a larger part of society to start dehumanizing her based on her diagnosis/identity, too. Glass houses, I guess. 💅

On a slightly related note, some kid I went to school with constantly got away with touching girls inappropriately because he blamed it on his ADHD. He gleefully kept getting away with it. It was absolutely disgusting. He graduated and ended up going to prison a couple years later. Turns out, “it was my ADHD!” is not a viable defense in the real world! 🤡

I get what you’re saying. However, my meaning is more “this can lead you into worse problems” = unhealthy coping. Alcohol worked fantastic for me to cope! But holy shit that has often led to worse situations and terrible health consequences.

People use painting to cope. Writing. Music Ways to express yourself and explore how you feel without self-destruction. Ways to explore things that suck without potentially harming in worse ways.

Saying “this is how I cope!” while doing self-harm is unhealthy. It’s a wobbly-ass crutch that is also full of glass that will hurt you if you once you lean on it too hard.

Do I blame folks for unhealthy coping? No. Not at all. I get it 100%. But a lot of it is used to numb the pain and ignore things instead of addressing it, and can turn into habit that will make your life so much worse, on top on your initial problems.

There are two kinds of copes: healthy & unhealthy. What is your goal? If it’s to actually heal, you need to take steps towards healthy coping.

I’m working through my unhealthy copes. Things like targeted bitterness, willfully ignoring the issues, depersonalization, detached relationships, etc.

Long-term, I ain’t doin’ so great. But I’m trying to be in a healthier mindset in order to get better.

Baby steps.

And in case anyone needs a reminder: forgiveness does not mean “letting it ride”— sometimes it means letting it go of the hurt that’s clung onto you so that you can move forward, regardless of the other party. It’s a journey… it… certainly is a journey… and it will absolutely take time. And it doesn’t always involve closure. That’s where I personally am right now.

Anyhow. Yeah.

I don’t enjoy healthy coping. It hurts a lot. But I know it’s what I need to do in order not to destroy both myself & the others around me who may genuinely care.

Idk. Shit’s hard, yo.

EDIT: yeeeah, one time I did nothing else except immerse myself in a video game for like 3 months straight. No joke. Addiction has a lot of forms, but they’ll all fuck you up.

I’m always curious about media entertainment.

Are there any interesting movies or video games exclusive to North Korea that you enjoy? Do you have any favorites? What are they all about?

Thank you!

It’s barbaric. They assume that if you’re girl/woman, most problems are basically “female hysteria”!

Not even “it could be [blank], you might want to keep an eye on that and report back if it doesn’t go away.” Nope! Diagnosis: dramatic.

And women die from this shit. Or become disabled / handicapped. Or it affects their long-term future if they want children. It’s awful.

I’m so sorry. I hope that the two of you are doing well.

It’s an actual tragedy how women’s health is dealt with. They get brushed off because “women have been giving birth for hundreds of thousands of years!”, ignoring that it’s the number one thing that kills women!! So our reproductive health and concerns are ignored while the ability to reproduce is put onto a pedestal.

I fucking hate it.

Pain was deep, ye. Can’t answer the question about physical activity because it rendered me unable to do any! But, yes, exerting any kind of physical effort seemed to make it worse.

I would lie on the cold bathroom floor every month with a heating pad / hot water bottle on my stomach, but it gave little relief through the simultaneous hot flashes and cold sweats.

Two things that actually helped somewhat if I could catch it hours before it started were: eating bananas (I suspect potassium helped with cramping), and, weirdly… drinking pickle juice. Idk what that was about, but it worked.

But have “your friend” get checked for endometriosis and PCOS!!! That shit can actually escape your uterus and scar up / destroy your other organs!!! No joke!!!

Thank you.

Birth control was my savior and actively allowed me enjoy life again. 💕

Excruciating period pain that would leave me fainting and vomiting every. Single. Time.

“Every girl goes through this” said the doctor, convincing my parents that I was just “dramatic”.

Turns out I had huge polyps growing out of control! Left scarring in my uterus and high-risk when pregnant.

Dealt with that hell every fucking month since I was 11 until I got onto birth control in my 20s.

“DO NOT RETALIATE because we are vewy scawed pls don’t huwt us oh no why are you being so vewy mean to us for no weason? 🥺”

As someone who is handicapped through no fault of my own, it fills me with sorrow that you feel this way. Self-harm through neglect is no way to live.

My handicap initially left me with no way to walk for nearly 2 years. No doctor would touch my case. My kid literally could not hug me. I was dependent on so many people during that time and could barely take care of anyone else.

I cannot tell you what to do… but I’m probably not going to live very long anyway (thank you, genetics!), so I’d like to encourage you to find purpose. I found my purpose in creation by sewing, and it brings me overwhelming joy. My goal is to continue creating things to spread that joy to others.

If that doesn’t convince you, please know this: there are evil, shitty people in power out there who revel in your self-destruction and actively want you to destroy yourself. Please do not let them win. Continue to do your best in order to spite them and help people who aren’t so fortunate.

I was really worried I was rambling!! Glad to know that you will be searching with renewed vigor. Enthusiastically wishing you all the best! (:

Not being traditionally masculine does not make you less of a man.

The man who moved me most in life was a sensitive, artistic, nervous, sweetheart of a man, whom I doted on, had him sit on my lap while he cried, cuddled and kissed him until he felt better, called him sugary names (lamb, darling, sweetheart), pet him often, and just absolutely loved on him.

Men often get upset if you refer to them as “cute”, and I was unable to feel any of them put me on equal footing before him. The fact that he was emotionally open and outright with his feelings was what had attracted me to him in the first place. I am absolutely not a “dominant” person, but my desire to protect and love him in this was something no other man even allowed me the opportunity to do.

I recall saying that something was “cute” while we were out, and he quietly asked “am I cute?”. The answer was, of course, “Yes, darling! Of course you are!” If he wanted me to, I would have moved all the stars in the sky for that man.

Men (often secretly) desire to be desired, and it is weirdly seen as a more feminine urge. However, men who identify as masc can still desire the sensitivity of desire. Nothing feminine about it.

There are women out there who will desire what you have to offer. It may be a search to find them, but they are out there.

Because you’re a thoughtless asshole with shitty opinions.